The "What Skills," of mindfulness: observe, describe, participate. Observe means to notice what is happening -- inside us, in the environment, or …
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Willing Hands
Willing Hands is a DBT skill that came up in conversation this past week. While it is actually a skill that falls into the Distress Tolerance module, …
I’m convinced that mindfulness can help me, but how do I do it?
So, after hearing about all the benefits of mindfulness over the past few weeks including research and empirical data, we may be willing to consider …
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Evidence for Mindfulness
Still not convinced about the value of mindfulness and meditation? Despite the scientific evidence that mindfulness and meditation significantly …
Mindful Living
Do one thing mindfully with full attention and with intention. Mindfulness is about paying attention to the present moment. The attention can be …
You Gotta Come to the Party
There is so much that goes into being effective with others. However, it involves being with others. If we avoid or "run away," then there is no way …
Choose Your Battles
In DBT, we don't necessarily think of discussions or decisions as "battles." However, we do consider balancing priorities with relationships. We …
The Consequences of Invalidation
Invalidation is at the root of borderline personality disorder (and other personality disorders). People raised in invalidating environments -- …
A Little Validation Goes a Long Way
A little validation goes a long way. It is an easy concept really -- to acknowledge another person's feelings and to express understanding. We don't …
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If It Bothers You, Speak Up!
If we don't speak up when someone has done something that upsets us (violated our boundaries), then resentment and anger can build and negatively …