If we don't speak up when someone has done something that upsets us (violated our boundaries), then resentment and anger can build and negatively …
Reduce Stress by Setting Boundaries
Many people would disagree with this premise. They argue that setting boundaries is more stressful than going along with something. They say that it …
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The “People-Pleaser’s” Dilema
Healthy people maintain healthy boundaries with others. In essence people get to decide what they will or will not do, and what they will or will not …
You make 20,000 decisions in a day. How?
We make 20,000 decisions in a day. What is the process in making decisions? As it turns out, human beings are not always rational when making choices. …
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See Yourself Into It!
Visualize it and then reinforce it and build momentum with positive affirmations. This may sound crazy. And if you have not participated in this …
My brain is out of alignment!
It's called cognitive dissonance. It's that uncomfortable sensation when we feel out of sync or out of place. Our bodies strive for homeostasis …
What If That Old Belief Is Bringing Me Down?
"The way things are," to take a quote from "Babe," embodies the concept that we accept as truth our early experiences (and conclusions drawn from …
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Tools to Help You Rewrite the Script
The thoughts in our heads may not be true. However, we accept them as the truth. If they are negative and hurtful, there is no reason to keep them …
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Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive distortions, as the name implies, occur when we change or twist information from the environment to correlate with our current belief. This …
Emotional Regulation Simplified
Emotional regulation is a broad topic. However, there is a simple way of conceptualizing the concept. Thoughts, feelings, and behaviors all influence …