In DBT, we don't necessarily think of discussions or decisions as "battles." However, we do consider balancing priorities with relationships. We …
The Consequences of Invalidation
Invalidation is at the root of borderline personality disorder (and other personality disorders). People raised in invalidating environments -- …
A Little Validation Goes a Long Way
A little validation goes a long way. It is an easy concept really -- to acknowledge another person's feelings and to express understanding. We don't …
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If It Bothers You, Speak Up!
If we don't speak up when someone has done something that upsets us (violated our boundaries), then resentment and anger can build and negatively …
The “People-Pleaser’s” Dilema
Healthy people maintain healthy boundaries with others. In essence people get to decide what they will or will not do, and what they will or will not …
How Can I Tell if Someone is Lying?
I am so intrigued with all the nuances of body language. It is such a broad topic, and there are people who have dedicated their professional lives …
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Is Your Body Language Giving You Away?
Your body language is giving your thoughts and feelings away! Does knowing this make you feel more self-conscious about the signals you are giving? …
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Communication is a Dynamic Process
There are so many variables that go into communication that there just cannot be a blanket rule for effective communication. Bias and expectations can …
Communication is a Dynamic Process
Listening is hard. Communication is hard. We have rules and guidelines to alleviate many of the pitfalls (DEAR MAN, GIVE, FAST). However, nothing is …
Easy Guide to Assertiveness Skills
Assertiveness skills are easy once we have a guidebook to follow. DEAR MAN skills can be surprisingly effective, and having a script to follow reduces …