Emotion Regulation skills are used for the day-to-day experiences with the environment, our interpretations of the events, our reaction to emotions, …
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The Consequences of Invalidation
Invalidation is at the root of borderline personality disorder (and other personality disorders). People raised in invalidating environments -- …
You make 20,000 decisions in a day. How?
We make 20,000 decisions in a day. What is the process in making decisions? As it turns out, human beings are not always rational when making choices. …
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What If That Old Belief Is Bringing Me Down?
"The way things are," to take a quote from "Babe," embodies the concept that we accept as truth our early experiences (and conclusions drawn from …
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Tools to Help You Rewrite the Script
The thoughts in our heads may not be true. However, we accept them as the truth. If they are negative and hurtful, there is no reason to keep them …
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Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive distortions, as the name implies, occur when we change or twist information from the environment to correlate with our current belief. This …
Emotional Regulation Simplified
Emotional regulation is a broad topic. However, there is a simple way of conceptualizing the concept. Thoughts, feelings, and behaviors all influence …
Opposite to Emotion Action
It may be possible to change negative emotions to positive emotions by doing the opposite of what you feel like doing. This skill is called "Opposite …
Happy New Year … And Be Happy!
Some people choose to set New Year's Resolutions for the upcoming year. My advice on the matter is to set goals -- both long-term and short-term -- …
Reducing Emotional Vulnerability
The PLEASE Master skill seems like common sense, and it is. After all, someone probably started teaching you about healthy behaviors before you were 5 …