by I saw a meme this week:
“Sometimes people pretend you’re a bad person so they don’t feel guilty about the things they did to you.”
Based on what you know about cognitive distortions and ego defense mechanisms, what is going on here?
How often do you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about others? — Putting distance between yourself and them . . . Blaming the victim.
When you really pay attention to your thoughts, you can assess them and then choose what you want to pay attention to. You can focus on differences or commonalities. It’s up to you.