In DBT, Marsha Linehan has defined mindfulness with the "What Skills" (covered last week) and the "How Skills." The "How Skills" are: …
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What is Necessary to Practice Mindfulness?
"Paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally, as if your life depended on it." This quotation is Jon Kabat-Zinn's …
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Perception Affects Communication
Sometimes in communication, we hear the words, we understand the words, and we still miss the meaning. We perceive one thing and the speaker has a …
Don’t fall Victim to an Emotional Groomer
Emotional grooming is about controlling the partner or spouse. People engage in this behavior when they feel insecure in relationships, and they lack …
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Is my Relationship Destructive?
Are you in a destructive relationship? What are the signs and symptoms of a destructive relationship? Marsha Linehan, the founder of Dialectical …
Keeping Friendships
Once we meet people and make friends, it is important to maintain those friendships. It is important to be mindful of others when interacting with …
Is There a Secret to Making Friends?
Interpersonal effectiveness involves more than being assertive or maintaining boundaries with the people in our lives. This module extends into …
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Honing in on Assertiveness
We use assertiveness to get what we want. While there is no guarantee that we will always get what we want -- as the saying goes -- we catch more …
Validation for De-escalation
The use of validation is so powerful, yet so simple. Sometimes people ask, "Is that all I have to do?" They noticed that they just had to be …
Don’t try to fix it
When someone is telling you about a problem they have, is your first inclination to fix it? They might be just seeking validation. Validation is …