When someone is telling you about a problem they have, is your first inclination to fix it? They might be just seeking validation. Validation is …
Don’t let it in! – Tips to Stay Assertive
Sometimes it is hard to stay assertive when the other person is being aggressive. It is easy to get pulled into their game. We find ourselves …
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Unlocking the Assertiveness Toolbox
Assertiveness is about speaking up in a manner that shows respect for both ourselves and the other person. It is important that we engage with the …
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Motive to be Assertive
Few people would argue that assertiveness is a good thing. It is common for someone to tell themselves to be more assertive. We also hear advice from …
Maintain Your Property Line
Boundaries are that invisible property line that mark where one person ends and another person begins. We maintain boundaries in all domains of our …
Interpersonal skills . . . aka playing in the sandbox with others
Interpersonal Effectiveness involves attending to positive relationships and connecting with others. The skill also involves ending toxic or …
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There is no Substitute for Daily Practice
Emotion Regulation skills require daily practice to keep emotions in check and behavior under control. These skills are the crux of making lasting …
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Mindfulness of Current Emotion
Mindfulness involves consciously directing your attention to one thing in the present moment. It is focused attention in a non-judgmental …
The power of positive self talk
Our minds can say some awful and destructive things to us. Some common examples of negative self-talk include: I'm not good enough.I mess up …
Live by your values
When we live by our values, things seem "right." If we are not living by the values that we set for ourselves, the consequence is guilt, depression, …